'‘Limits, like fears, are often just an illusion’
This past Friday night, my daughter, Noa Ariella Marks (pictured dancing) cuddled up to me, and said she was afraid of the dark. She turned 5 last month. But the conversation that followed showed me that, despite her youth, she has a lot to teach me.
I asked her: 'Why are you scared of the dark? The dark cannot do anything to you'.
She said: ‘I can hear lost of noises and I think there are lions and bats making those sounds. Actually, I’m not afraid of the dark, I’m afraid of my imagination’.
And that got me thinking. I am often scared of what I ‘think’ may or may not happen. It’s oftentimes not based on reality, but on my perception. I am often paralysed:
- Scared of the business meeting, not sure what the outcome may be
- Scared of the interview and whether they will like me
- Scared of saying something in case I offend someone
- Scared of doing something in case I fail
I cannot anticipate everything that will, will not, may or may not happen. But what I can do is: Act...and be brave.... and deal with the issues only if, and when, they arise, instead of prejudicing the outcome with my overactive imagination.
Don’t hide behind fear
Act out of strength